Saying Yes to No

NO is powerful, is a big weapon to have in your arsenal but is a very tough weapon to deploy. Everyone knows how difficult it is to say NO, is one of the reason why everyone is comfortable asking you for favours they have no business asking you for, cause they know how hard it is to say NO....can you help watch my kids for an hour? can I borrow your diamond earrings? can I borrow your car?, or telling you to do things they have no business telling you to do.... I'm gonna need you to work my shift, I need you to loan me money. Now the answer to all of these, should be NO, except the person coming to you is one of your closest friends or member of your family. Frankly if they are not friends or family, they have no business asking you these question-NO NO NO but is hard to say NO. Everyone is great at taking care of other people and forgetting oneself. Why are we so bad at taking care of ourselves? why are we so unwilling to show ourselves thesame kindness and consideration we show others? cut ourselves thesame slack? Give yourself the protection and care you would give anyone else?. 

 Saying NO and the desire not to be a doormat is one of the hardest things to do especially when you are successful. A NO conversation is a fine runnel emergency. Say Yes to saying NO. NO is a complete sentences, you don't owe anybody an explanation, you say NO and you say goodbye. Treat saying NO thesame way you say thank you. You can say NO in this three ways and feel good about it. 

1. I'm going to be unable to do that.

 2. That's not going to work for me

3. NO

With saying NO comes a tremendous sense of relieve and freedom, the reason you have being so afraid of saying NO comes clearly, you worried what if they get angry? wouldn't be friends anymore? yells and things turns ugly? those are the worst thing that can happen and so what?. Saying NO reveals people's identity, what they really want to say which can be they are using you for what you could do for them. 

With saying NO comes the superpower, a self awareness of been able to say anything to anyone, any difficult conversation, any tough decision sitting in the pit of your stomach, any unsaid confession, issues of resentment, unpleasant business, you can talk about it, you would want to talk about it because no matter how hard a conversation is, you should know on the other side of that difficult conversation lies peace, knowledge, answers is delivered, characters is revealed, truces are formed, misunderstanding are resolved. Freedom lies across the field of difficult conversations and the more difficult the conversation the greater the freedom. 

 You can say it or you can eat it.